We crave it, studies have shown we need it. We aren’t meant to be alone, as a species we are communal. At a primal level we seek companionship.

But the second we express feeling lonely….

People come out and say we should be happy alone, learn to love ourselves, don’t worry about finding a life partner.

In my experience, the people who say this have not been alone much of their life.

We…..I find ways to cope….which are not always healthy, but driven completely by the physical manifestations of emotional pain.

I’ve been alone so long that I’m unsure I know how to be with anyone…yet I have had moments, moments in which I thought I had figured it out. Where things felt right, I felt…safe….secure….wanted….

But those moments are often fleeting, I’m never kept around long….

My mind tells me to stop, but my heart? My soul? They crave the lasting connection I’ve never had.

But how do I let go of the connection I’ve felt and had taken away, as I was tossed aside, to make room for new ones?

Does anyone really know how to let go? Does anyone really know how to move forward when they feel they’ve constantly been pushed back?

I don’t think that knowing other people suffer the same is helpful. Knowing that other people also feel alone.

But why should we be shamed for it? Made to feel weak for simply being human? Why should we be told we need to meet certain conditions when seeking an unconditional love?